Identity and Relationships (My 12 Favorite Problems)

Identity and Relationships

This is hard, painful and I feel really uninspired.
I’ve learned my lesson, when I am in this mood I need to lower my ambitions.
So, I’ve taken the first two problems, I wrote one sentence to develop each, and I’ve attached the initial questions.
I am taking it nice, easy, and slow. I know I won’t be finished in a week.
That is fine.

My Identity

When I had to change job I’ve asked myself a lot about my identity. What started as an inquiry into my professional world went over the boundaries and reached my personal sphere. I am writing every day to learn more about myself. I want to keep on writing not only to discover more about myself but also to leverage the many articles I wrote so far.

A temporary list of questions about my identity:

  1. how to be a good person.
  2. How to live a good life.
  3. How to find purpose and meaning.
  4. How to make the best use of my time.
  5. What is happiness? How to understand it and live with and without it.
  6. How to develop an interconnected system of habits to grow as a healthy, wealthy, and systemic human being, conscious citizens of the world, human beings, members of humankind.
  7. Develop self-awareness, self-expression.
  8. How to stay healthy.
  9. How to make my life meaningful, worthwhile.


I cannot live alone. My life has a sense because of the people around me. What shall I know better about my relationships? How can I live better with them? For them? I would like to dedicate more focused reflection to relationships.

An initial set of questions about relationships:

  1. How to have good relationships.
  2. How to take care of my family.
    1. how to be a good partner.
    2. how to be a good father.
    3. how to be a good son.
    4. how to be a good relative.
  3. how to be a good friend.
  4. how to be a good citizen of the World.
  5. How to spend more quality time with quality people.

The remaining problems to develop

  1. How to be a good thinker
    1. how to be a good thinker
      1. observation
        1. recognizing patterns
        2. cross-discipline / non-disciplinary
      2. how to think about the future
    2. how to make the best decisions
    3. Learning
      1. how to be a good learner
  2. Communication
    1. how to communicate in the best way
    2. Storytelling
      1. how to tell great stories
      2. how to create great stories
  3. Justice, equality, equanimity
    1. What’s the right word?
    2. How to create a just society
  4. Make the world better
    1. How to build a sustainable society
    2. How to make a living while making the world a better place.
    3. How to leave a positive, durable, compounding legacy
    4. How to put new things in the world to make it better rather than worse
    5. How to minimize unintended consequences
    6. How to create better futures
    7. How to improve the ecosystem’s health
  5. Education
    1. How to educate sons.
    2. How to educate children.
    3. How to educate human beings.
    4. How to educate human beings for the best
    5. How to learn
      1. How to know more about what is unknown
    6. How to be a good facilitator, coach, trainer, educator
  6. How to be a good designer
    1. How to understand, communicate, and manage complexity
    2. How to minimize unintended consequences
    3. Imagining alternative worlds
    4. How to create networks of networks of changemakers creating a positive impact on people and the planet
    5. How can I leave a legacy that will make me remembered in a positive way
  7. How to imagine better futures
  8. How to augment life
    1. How to raise the collective intelligence
    2. How to extend life, perception, augment intelligence, individual and collective.
    3. How to live multiple lives
  9. How to minimize the suffering of all living beings
    1. How to relieve suffering
  10. How to be more creative
    1. Teach everybody to be creative
    2. Make art a part of everybody’s life

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